Family & kids
Family and partner reasons are the #1 reason immigrants leave Germany — usually because the family never made it here, or never settled well. This pillar covers the whole arc: the reunification visa, the A1 German your spouse legally needs, the parental money you're entitled to, and how Kita and school really work.
Last updated: 2026-07-19
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Kita & school
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Is Kita free where you live? All 16 Länder
last verified 2026-07-19Everywhere in Germany you have an enforceable legal claim to a childcare place from age 1 — but what parents PAY is pure Ländersache. 'Free' = parental contribution abolished; food money ~€23–80/month is usually still charged.
Berlin
FreeFREE all ages (since 2018-08)
Mecklenburg-Vorpommern
FreeFREE fully (Krippe+Kita+Hort, since 2020)
Brandenburg
Partly freeLast Kita year free; expansion staged ⚠
Bremen
Partly freeFREE from age 3
Hamburg
Partly freeFREE 5 h/day basic slot from birth
Hessen
Partly freeFREE from age 3 for 6 h/day
Niedersachsen
Partly freeFREE from age 3 (Kindergarten years)
Nordrhein-Westfalen
Partly freeLast 2 Kindergarten years free
Rheinland-Pfalz
Partly freeFREE from age 2
Thüringen
Partly freeLast 2 Kita years free ⚠
Baden-Württemberg
FeesNo statewide relief — among the most expensive
Bayern
FeesFees, offset by 100 €/month state Zuschuss for Kindergarten years (age 3+); Krippengeld 100 €/mo income-dependent
Saarland
FeesFees apply; phasing fees down ⚠
Sachsen
FeesFees apply
Sachsen-Anhalt
FeesFees apply
Schleswig-Holstein
FeesFees apply; statewide fee cap ⚠
⚠ = staging to re-verify on a primary source. Details + how to actually get a place: the Kita guide below.
Family — common questions
Does my wife really need A1 German before the visa?
Not if you hold a Blue Card or a §18a/§18b skilled-worker permit — spouses of these sponsors are explicitly exempt from the A1 requirement (§30 Abs. 1 S. 3 Nr. 5 AufenthG). Spouses of students and permanent residents generally DO need an A1 certificate (Goethe, telc, or ÖSD), and spouses of German citizens need it too, though illness, hardship, and "low integration need" exemptions exist.
Check your exact case →Can my spouse work after arriving in Germany?
Yes — fully, from day one. Any spouse admitted for family reunification gets unrestricted work access by law (§27 Abs. 5 AufenthG); the residence card says "Erwerbstätigkeit erlaubt". No separate work permit, no labor-market check, any job or self-employment.
Family reunification guide →Can I bring my parents to Germany?
Possibly — since March 2024, parents (and parents-in-law, if your spouse also lives here) of skilled workers and Blue Card holders can join, but only if your first German residence title was issued on or after 1 March 2024 (§36 Abs. 3 AufenthG). The practical blocker is health insurance: parents cannot join free family insurance, so you must fund private cover. Be aware the current coalition has announced it wants to abolish this route — if you qualify, apply early.
How long does the family-reunion visa take in Islamabad, Dhaka, or Delhi?
Honest ranges, not promises: India is typically around 2–6 months of processing after submission (over 90 days is normal); Pakistan runs about 6–12 months including document verification, with applications only via the digital Consular Services Portal since 15 January 2026; Bangladesh is around 12–16 months total by the embassy's own figure. Families of Blue Card and skilled workers are processed preferentially.
Embassy-by-embassy timelines →Should I get our marriage certificate apostilled?
No — don't waste the money. Germany objected to India's, Pakistan's, and Bangladesh's accessions to the Apostille Convention, so German authorities reject apostilles from all three countries. What actually happens is authority-initiated document verification: NADRA/union-council field verification for Pakistan (PKR 75,000), embassy verification for Bangladesh (BDT 28,000), and trusted-lawyer verification for India (roughly 150–250 €, varies). Pakistan tip: order fresh NADRA documents only when your submission is near — they expire during the wait.
How much Kindergeld will I get?
259 € per child per month in 2026 (up from 255 €), paid until 18 — or up to 25 if the child is in education. Non-EU parents qualify with a residence title that permits work, which covers Blue Card and skilled-worker holders. Working parents on low incomes can stack Kinderzuschlag on top: up to 297 €/child/month extra.
How much Elterngeld would we get, and do we qualify?
Roughly 65–67 % of the staying-home parent's pre-birth net income, between 300 € and 1,800 € per month, for 12 months plus 2 partner months (14 total). Even a non-working parent gets the 300 € minimum. The income cap is 175,000 € taxable income for births from April 2025; Blue Card and skilled-worker holders qualify, though some short-term titles don't — check §1 Abs. 7 BEEG for your case.
Calculate your Elterngeld →Is Kita free in Germany?
Depends entirely on your Bundesland: Berlin and Mecklenburg-Vorpommern are free at all ages, Rheinland-Pfalz from age 2, Hamburg gives 5 free hours daily from birth, while Bayern and especially Baden-Württemberg charge real fees (several hundred euros monthly for under-3s is possible). Everywhere, you have an enforceable legal claim to a childcare place from age 1 — and food money of roughly 23–80 €/month is usually charged even where care is "free".
How big must my flat be to sponsor my family?
The administrative rule of thumb is 12 m² of living space per person aged 6+, 10 m² per child aged 2–6, with children under 2 not counted and about a 10 % shortfall tolerated. This applies when the sponsor is a foreign national; if the sponsor is a German citizen, the housing requirement doesn't apply and income proof is normally waived too.
Full requirements checklist →Do I pay extra health insurance for my spouse and kids?
No — in statutory insurance (GKV), family insurance is free for your spouse and children as long as their own income stays under the threshold (§10 SGB V). That's a major advantage over private insurance for single-earner families. Kassen differ mainly in price and service: 2026 Zusatzbeiträge range from 2.18 % to 4.39 %, and English-friendly options like TK (2.69 %) are popular with newcomers.
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